I've said it before and I reiterate; if I only went paddling when I could find partners, I might go paddling about two times per year.
There are plenty of folks around who will go from time to time, but there is exactly the problem. They don't go often enough and when they do, they are so out of shape and timid about conditions, it isn't worth the effort. When I go by myself, I don't have to worry about what kind of trouble some other paddler is having with his boat, or other gear. I don't have to worry about their inexperience getting them into trouble and I don't have to paddle at their mind numbing slow pace.
I've often thought how great it would be to find a reliable paddler who is about matched for experience etc., but I'm beginning to think that is almost impossible and to find a matched threesome, most certainly would be very difficult. That's not to say that I assign myself as some kind of elite paddler--I'm not and I have no desire to be. I try to stay within my comfort zone, which at this point isn't likely to change very much. When I think it's too wild to be out there, that's it, and I'm not about to try to lure any of my friends out into the crap that I've gotten comfortable with.
With all that said, I'm kind of working on a guy who seems very willing to learn and has done some paddling, but right now he doesn't have his own boat. I don't mind loaning a boat once in a while, but I will not become a provider. This guy is well able to get his own stuff and hopefully he will pretty soon. I would mention the kind of boat he is seriously looking at, but then I would be in trouble, so I won't.